Types of Services
All too often, families discount the value of ceremony after the death of a loved one, and we certainly don’t want you to make that mistake. Coming together after a loss is a very essential part of the grieving process.
Why have a service of any kind?
Is there any value in having any kind of service? Well, consider this:
"Anywhere in the world you go, there are certain constants present in each society. In some of the oriental societies, when you are met, there is some sign of greeting. In oriental countries, it's a bow. It may be a kiss on the cheek or a handshake, as in America, along with a greeting such as, Hello, Good morning, or How are you? These initiated a point of contact with another human being.
The other thing that we see as we grow up, is that when we part company with another human being, there is some illustration - exchanging a hug, a handshake or a bow, and there's something we do fairly consistently. We say, 'Goodbye' or 'See you tomorrow at work', etc.
So if I came to your house, sat down at your table and had a cup of coffee and we were having this wonderful conversation and then all of a sudden stood up and walked out of the house without saying something, you would feel out of balance. You're going to feel like, 'What did I do?' 'Did I make Vernie mad?' Now, if I wanted to correct that situation so that you wouldn't feel bad, I'd shake your hand and say 'Goodbye. See you later'.
Which brings us back to the wife who has hugged her husband goodbye this morning, and 15 minutes later he's killed in an accident. She will have an inherent need to have some time - before the funeral service - to tell him 'Goodbye'. This is the value of the funeral that we may offer the family, and we must be very careful that we do not take away this very important time for our families to say 'Goodbye' for the last time."
Gathering with friends and family gives everyone the opportunity to share memories, express emotions, and find comforting support. Whether you choose burial or cremation; whether you select a formal or more relaxed service, the need for acknowledgment of the loss with family and friends is ever present. We can help you create a unique meaningful ceremony to express the genuine individuality of your loved one.
We offer families a two comfortable settings in which to come together to honor your loved one. But, you may certainly choose to celebrate their life in a more unique setting. No matter where you decide to gather together, such a service will make a difference in the lives of all who attend.
If burial has been selected, usually any ceremonies we design revolve around the casket being present. You can choose to follow tradition, with a viewing, and then a funeral service in a church or our facility. Or you could decide to have a more relaxed service, even in your family home.
Let’s just say this: there is no ‘hard and fast’ formula for honoring your loved one when burial has been selected. We’re here to listen to your concerns, share our experience, and help you to arrive at the perfect way to gather together before your loved one's interment in the cemetery of your choice.
Cremation only refers to the manner in which you or your loved one has chosen to deal with the physical remains. We want you to know that this decision doesn’t limit the ways you can honor your loved one's life. Our experience suggests that you consider having service of some kind, because your need for such a healing experience is not lessened by the cremation. Service options are limited only by your imagination. Please contact us to discuss the wide variety of celebratory options open to you.